What I wish I knew before freezing my eggs

When I decided to freeze my eggs, I was only 28.

At the time, no one in my circle was even thinking about fertility preservation.

I felt like I was stepping into uncharted territory, doing something completely out of step with my peers.

There was no one to turn to for advice, and very little real, lived experience shared publicly.

I kept the process almost entirely to myself – so much so that only my mum knew.

Even while I was working long shifts, I was secretly carrying the weight of it all. 

My hormone injections were hidden in the office fridge, and I'd slip away to give myself needles during the day without anyone knowing.

On the outside, everything looked normal. On the inside, it felt isolating and emotional.

What I wish I'd known then is that there are steps you can take even before making the decision to freeze your eggs.

You can test your fertility, understand your hormone levels, and get a clearer picture of where you stand.

Knowledge is power, and it can help guide your choices.

I also wish I'd known just how much age matters.

Fertility isn’t something we're taught to think about in our 20s, but the reality is that the younger you are, the better quality your eggs will be and the more you will have. 

For me, starting earlier has given me more options and peace of mind for the future.

It’s also important to know that egg freezing isn’t a guarantee.

It doesn’t promise a baby.

But, it is one of the best backups we have – a safety net that can make all the difference when you’re ready to try.

For me, that knowledge has been invaluable.

The hormone process itself can feel intense at times. The injections, the bloating, the waiting – all of it can take a toll.

But it’s manageable, especially if you give yourself permission to slow down and lean on support.

I went through much of it in silence, but I now know you don’t have to do it alone.

Looking back, freezing my eggs at 28 was one of the best decisions I've made for my future self.

It wasn't always easy, but it gave me peace of mind and a sense of control that I'll always be grateful for.

I share my story because I want other women to know that they don't have to go through this alone.

The more we talk about fertility preservation openly, the easier and less isolating it becomes for everyone.